4 ways to make giving oral sex more enjoyable
Women require creativity when it comes to, well, coming: Research shows that only 30% of females can through penetration alone, which means you may have to use a variety of foreplay methods to give your lady the pleasure she deserves. That often includes oral sex. And while cunnilingus is a normal, healthy part of most guys’ sex lives, our survey of more than 1,500 men finds that 1 in 5 men don’t love it. If you’re one of those guys, experts recommend the following tips to make it more fun for both of you.
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1. Don’t Be a Fool and Rush In
Don’t head south right away. Spend some time kissing her lips, caressing her breasts, and using finger play to stoke her sexual fires. “The closer you bring her to orgasm before oral begins, the less time you’ll have to spend down there,” says Emily Morse, Ph.D., a sexologist and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. At the same time, research from the Netherlands indicates sexual arousal shuts off your “disgust reflex.” While there’s nothing dirty about women’s (or men’s) genitals, fooling around upstairs for 10 or 15 minutes may turn you on so much that giving oral no longer bothers you, the study suggests.
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2. Get Wet and Wild
Hit the shower. “Letting the water rain down dilutes the taste and distracts you from what you’re doing,” says Sonjia Kenya, Ed.D., a sexologist and medical research professor at the University of Miami School of Medicine.
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3. Tweak Your Technique
Consistent clitoral stimulation is the fastest way to get most women off, Kenya says. But if it’s the taste that bothers you, you don’t have to use your tongue as much as you think. Instead, try blowing your warm breath over her clitoris to get her going, suggests Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author and founder of sexpert.com. Then you can lightly flick your tongue over her clit, alternating from up and down, instead of full-on licking.
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4. Practice Your ABCs
Use your tongue to “write” the alphabet. This can act as a time-killing distraction, but also gives you the chance to notice which letters flip her ecstasy switch, Kenya says. (We’ve heard H and X drive women wild.) If you can’t get an accurate read, simply ask her to tell you what feels good.
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